Tuning Your Mind Toward Success

Hopelessness, depression and lackluster-ness are no fun! These emotions are destructive to your daily interactions with people and suck your energy away from anything positive you could be accomplishing. In fact, these emotions can even pull other negative aspects toward you.If you feel like you’re not getting results, that you’re not getting what you really want out of life, these emotions can bubble up. If the same rules for negative attraction apply to positive attraction, then it’s all based upon the approach.

What’s an approach? It’s a mindset prior to engaging a task. How can you change your mindset for success, you ask? Keep reading.

Underneath our personas everyone holds beliefs about the way the world is. These are ideas and associations around all areas of our lives. Often these are things we take for granted, as truths. Beliefs put perspective around what we can or cannot do, what we will or won’t achieve, how talented or terrible we are at something, etc. With a certain mindset, you may simply not see options beyond those in which you’ve been habitually engaged. Sometimes more options are available if you change the way you feel about the situation. Think about positive feelings associated with a past experience, or make up one. A positive feeling can lead to a positive perspective, which will create the opportunity to form what we want out of life.

You may need to start from square one and change your beliefs. Changing a mindset means altering beliefs. The first step is to identify your beliefs. Look at the “evidence” you lean on for your lack of success and ask yourself if it serves you to hold onto that belief.

You may have blind spots – areas in your beliefs or behavior of which you are not aware. Consider the following questions to understand where some of your beliefs may have stemmed from. When we understand the thoughts that influence our mental approach, and recognize the feelings and emotions that come from those thoughts, we can begin to attune our attitudes toward those that will attract the results we’re looking for.

* Where did your negative beliefs come from?
* Are those beliefs realistic? Why?
* Where did your positive beliefs come from?
* Are those beliefs realistic? Why?
* What are the beliefs of people whom you consider successsful?

Besides our beliefs, we also make assumptions that hold us back. Perhaps you don’t think that you will be promoted because your colleague has more experience. Have you considered that he or she may not be interested in the position? Or the fact that you are qualified in unique ways? Keep the big picture in mind and remember all of your individual positive traits. Be conscious of what assumptions you’re making and begin to model the success you want, instead of what you don’t want.

by : Mindie Kniss